Something Old, New, Borrowed & Blue + Tuesday Tunes

"Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe..."

You want to know something kind of embarrassing? When I was planning my own wedding, I totally forgot to do the whole "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" thing. Who does that?! When you're packing for your wedding, that little tradition can be the last thing on your mind... but it's too fun and too cute to leave it out! I ended up saying my dress was my "something new," and on the day of my wedding, I thought to borrow a vintage blue ring from one of my bridesmaids for my somethings old, borrowed and blue. And a sixpence?! I definitely did not have one of those. It worked out just fine, but I really wish I had put more thought into those details! 

By the way, have you ever heard the meaning behind this tradition? Each item is supposed to bring luck to the bride, and many brides even wore a sixpence (a type of British money) in her shoe for extra luck! Here is what each item represents, according to the The Knot: "Something old represents continuity; something new offers optimism for the future; something borrowed symbolizes borrowed happiness; something blue stands for purity, love and fidelity; and a sixpence in your shoe is a wish for good fortune and prosperity." 

If you're looking for some ideas - whether classic or unique - for this tradition, here are some of my favorites!

Something Old

Classic: A family heirloom, like your grandmother's pearls, your mother's earrings, or a brooch that's been passed down through the generations

Unique: A vintage dress, veil or other accessories, or a photo of a loved one who's passed away in a locket on your bouquet

Something New

Classic: A gorgeous bridal gown or fancy accessories

Unique: A once-in-a-lifetime pair of shoes, or something monogrammed to show off your new initials

Something Borrowed

Classic: A beautiful piece of jewelry from someone close to you, like your aunt's super expensive bracelet that you've always wanted to wear, or a friend or family member's prettiest wedding details, like a veil or a fur stole

Unique: A handkerchief or piece of lace from your grandmother's wedding dress to wrap around your bouquet, or a fabulous clutch, which you could even rent from a website like Rent The Runway

Something Blue

Classic: Blue lingerie, blue shoes or a blue garter

Unique: A blue piece of clothing from someone special sewn into your dress, or if you're feeling extra bold, ask your maid of honor or flower girl to dye their hair blue (this has seriously happened... and it's pretty awesome!)

What would your picks be? Or if you're already married, what did you carry/wear for your somethings old, new, borrowed and blue?

How To Keep Your Guests Cool At Your Summer Wedding

While summer is a very popular time for a wedding, pulling off an awesome summer wedding can be tricky... especially if you live somewhere hot and humid, like Arkansas! You want your guests to be comfortable in the sweltering heat, and there are some seriously fun ways to make sure that happens!

The first way to keep your guests cool and comfortable, even on the hottest of days: don't schedule your wedding for the middle of the afternoon. An evening wedding will be much cooler, and since summer days are so long, you'll still have plenty of light. Here are some fun, creative ways to keep your guests from overheating!

Ceremony Necessities
Even if your ceremony isn't held during the middle of the afternoon, there's still a chance that your guests are going to be in the sun. Ideally, your wedding will be held in the shade, but if not, you can still help keep your guests cool. Nobody likes a sunburn, so think about providing something that will keep your guests from getting so much sun! A few fun ideas: parasols, fans, customized sunglasses, a water and lemonade station, and programs that double as fans. If your outdoor wedding is going to be in the sun, do your guests a favor and keep it on the shorter side! 

Andrew Arceri , from  Megan + Daniel 's wedding at The Barn

Andrew Arceri, from Megan + Daniel's wedding at The Barn

Practical Favors
I've written a couple posts about favors (here and here), so y'all already know I'm a big fan of favors that are both fun and practical. Get a little bit creative and come up with favors that are both cute, original and will keep your guests cool! Think: bottles of water, sunglasses (again), flip flops, or koozies to keep their drinks cold.

Cold Snacks & Drinks
The ultimate way to keep your guests cool is with cold snacks and drinks! Provide your guests with signature cocktails (with an awesome display), beer or sodas on ice (in a wheelbarrow or canoe), popsicles, ice cream (bonus points if it's mini), and it would be super awesome if you had an ice cream truck.

Must-Have Wedding Photos

Aside from a great venue, the most important splurge for your wedding day is a great photographer. Hiring a professional photographer is an absolute necessity, because once your wedding day has come and gone, all you have left are photos and a few keepsakes! It's extremely important to have quality photos, and plenty of them. You want to have tons of photos that are beautiful, meaningful, and capture the most special moments and details from your wedding day.

So, what photos can you not do without? This list will fill you in on photos that you simply must have (as well as a few examples from weddings at The Barn!). You might want to print off this list to give to your photographer, just in case. But if your photographer is one of our fabulous preferred vendors, you can be confident that they already know which photos are absolute necessities!

1.     The dress, without you in it

2.     Bridal details: veil, garter, jewelry and any other accessories

3.     Bridal shoes

4.     Rings

5.     Bride getting ready – these are always great candid shots!

6.     Groom getting ready

7.     Invitation suite

8.     First look with parents or bridal party

9.     First look with your bride or groom, if you choose to have one (and you want a whoooole bunch from this moment)

10.   Individual portraits of the bride

11.   Individual portraits of the groom

12.   Approximately a million (maybe I'm exaggerating) romantic photos of you and your beloved in several different locations around your venue, with plenty of gorgeous poses... you want a good variety!

13.   The bride with her bridesmaids

14.   The groom with his groomsmen

15.   The entire bridal party

16.   The bride and groom with the flower girl and ring bearer

17.   Bridal bouquet

18.   Bridesmaids’ bouquets

19.   Groom’s boutonniere

20.   Boutonnieres and corsages

21.   Your ceremony area

22.   Altar

23.   Guestbook table

24.   Aisle

25.   Any other ceremony details. You want tons of detail shots. Make sure your photographer captures as many details as possible, because there’s a good chance that you won’t see a lot of them!

26.   Your reception area

27.   Reception tables

28.   Reception details. As with your ceremony details, you want tons of photos of your reception details, too.

29.   Favors

30.   Any cute signage

31.   The groom at the altar

32.   The bride walking down the aisle

33.   Exchanging of rings and vows

34.   Unity ceremony and/or any unique traditions

35.   Your guests at the ceremony

36.   The kiss! (Duh)

37.   Bride and groom walking back down the aisle

38.   Portraits of the bride and groom immediately following the ceremony

39.   Signing the marriage license

40.   The bride and groom with their families

41.   Food and signature cocktails

42.   The cake

43.   Bride and groom’s first dance

44.   Father-daughter dance

45.   Mother-son dance

46.   Cake cutting

47.   Bouquet toss

48.   Garter toss

49.   Candid photos of everyone having a good time at your reception

50.   Grand exit

Why You Should Consider An Unplugged Wedding

A few years ago, this Facebook post about this poor groom who had to lean over to see his bride walking down the aisle, because of several guests standing in the aisle taking pictures with their phones made its rounds. I know, right?! OMG! There are few moments in life that are as sacred and precious as the moment you walk down the aisle to marry your best friend. And when that moment is an any way tainted or obstructed, it's totally acceptable and understandable to be upset about it! That's where unplugged weddings come in. Many couples (many of ours included!) have adopted this trend in recent years, and we’re all about it. If you're unfamiliar with an unplugged wedding, it means the bride and groom ask their guests to leave all phones and cameras put away through the ceremony and/or certain parts of the reception (first dance, cake cutting, etc.), or through the entire reception. Why should you consider an unplugged ceremony, and how can you politely ask your guests to keep their darn phones and cameras out of sight?

No one wants to get their wedding photos back and see swarms of guests standing in the aisle, with their phones or cameras up taking pictures of the ceremony. One of my favorite wedding photos would have been one that was taken during our wedding ceremony, from behind the ceremony site. In this photo, you can see us standing at the altar, our lovely guests, and our beautiful decor. Buuuut, one of our sweet guests (whose name I won't call out!) was standing in the aisle. She left her seat to walk up to the front of the aisle to take a picture of us. If only I had thought to politely ask our guests to leave their devices in their pockets or purses!

Couples want to see your beautiful face in their photos, not your phone or camera held in front of your face! Keep 'em down, pretty please.

When you're standing at the edge of the dance floor to take a photo of the bride and groom during their first dance, you may be in the way of the photographer. The couple has paid their photographer a lot of money to perfectly capture every big moment of their wedding. If you're standing where the photographer needs to be standing to get the shot, the perfect shot isn't going to happen. This also goes for every other big moment of the wedding!

And a really obvious reason: the bride and groom want to be able to see each other and truly enjoy the magical moment when the bride walks down the aisle to marry her man! 

Tryston Hines Photography , from  Breanna + Bryan 's wedding at The Barn

Tryston Hines Photography, from Breanna + Bryan's wedding at The Barn

The bride and groom may not want any photos of their wedding on social media until their photographer posts a sneak peek from their wedding, or until they are able to upload one. If you take photos and post them without permission, you may be sort of stealing their spotlight!

How can you ask your guests to put their devices up in a polite way? Have a sign on the guestbook table that says something like, "We invite you to be fully present with us during our ceremony. Please turn off all cell phones and cameras." Have your officiant make an announcement. Send your flower girl or ring bearer down the aisle with a funny sign that says, "Please put away all phones and cameras. The bride means it." Your guests will (most likely, hopefully) be more than happy to oblige!

Why You Should Consider A First Look!

It's no secret that we love a good first look! (I've probably mentioned that 50 times or more on this blog... Oops!) Whether or not you decide to have a first look totally depends on your preferences and how traditional or non-traditional you want your wedding day to be. Some of you may still be on the fence... A first look sounds like a good idea, but you're not sure about breaking the tradition of not seeing your fiance on your wedding day until you walk down the aisle. If you need some convincing, here are just a few reasons why you should consider a first look! 

You are able to get your nervousness out before the ceremony. This means no sweaty palms or stumbling through your vows! Definitely a good thing. :)

First looks are sooo romantic. It might end up being the most romantic part of your day! Your photos of those moments will be stunning.

Seeing each other for the first time with no one else around (except your photographer) means there is no pressure. You can ugly cry if you want to. You can scream with excitement and act a fool. You can't (or probably shouldn't) do those things in front of the crowd during your ceremony. ;)

You can take the majority of your portraits together before the ceremony. Since you've already seen each other, you can get your bridal party shots out of the way, too.

Having your photos out of the way before the ceremony means you can take a few more immediately after the ceremony (with family members, for example) and then head on over to your cocktail hour or reception to grab a drink and mingle!

If you want to go the traditional route and not see your fiancé until you walk down the aisle, by all means, do your thing! Maybe you should schedule a first look with your dad, mom, both parents or your bridesmaids! That way you can have fun, sweet first look pictures without breaking tradition. :)

Telling Your Story Through Your Wedding Decor

This post from two summers ago is one of my favorites, so I had to share it again! Sharing a little bit of your story in your wedding decor helps your guests get to know you, and it makes for some unforgettable details!

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A few months ago, I wrote a post for Bridal Guide about how to make your wedding more memorable for yourself and your guests. One of the main things I talked about was the importance of incorporating your story - as individuals, as well as your story as a couple - into your wedding decor. Working things into your decor that are important to you is the best way for your guests to get to know your interests, hobbies or your love story. Plus, these kinds of details are the ones that will most likely be your favorites... You'll always look back on them fondly, because they revealed so much about this special time in your life! 

Here's a little excerpt from my Bridal Guide article that will help you brainstorm what details you should work into your decor: "When you're planning the details for your own wedding, think about what makes you and your significant other unique, both individually and as a couple. Do you like to travel? Were you high school sweethearts? Are you diehard football fans? Are you major foodies? Are you in the same profession? Focus on what you both love, and get creative!"

These types of details are some of our favorites to incorporate into ceremonies and receptions at The Barn. Here are ways we've worked our couples' stories into their decor! 

Danielle Davis Art/Photography , from  Ani + Nathan 's wedding. For couples who love to travel, a globe guestbook is a must! Ask your guests to sign on their favorite place they've ever visited!

Danielle Davis Art/Photography, from Ani + Nathan's wedding. For couples who love to travel, a globe guestbook is a must! Ask your guests to sign on their favorite place they've ever visited!

Erika Dotson Photography , from  Anita + Wesley 's wedding. Wesley loves spearfishing (they even went on a spearfishing trip for part of their honeymoon!), which his awesome groom's cake reflected perfectly. It even had a little boat named Anita on top!

Erika Dotson Photography, from Anita + Wesley's wedding. Wesley loves spearfishing (they even went on a spearfishing trip for part of their honeymoon!), which his awesome groom's cake reflected perfectly. It even had a little boat named Anita on top!

Pictures by Katie , from  Kelsey + Gueorgui 's wedding. This couple loves soccer, so the groom and his guys played a game during the reception! 

Pictures by Katie, from Kelsey + Gueorgui's wedding. This couple loves soccer, so the groom and his guys played a game during the reception! 

Stephanie Parsley Photography , from  Samantha + Danny 's wedding. This couple's color palette actually told a part of their story. Their color scheme was seafoam, gold and cream, which was inspired by a headband that Danny gave Samantha in the early part of their relationship. While the color scheme isn't an obvious representation of their story, it sure made for a romantic, sweet story when their guests found out the meaning behind it! 

Stephanie Parsley Photography, from Samantha + Danny's wedding. This couple's color palette actually told a part of their story. Their color scheme was seafoam, gold and cream, which was inspired by a headband that Danny gave Samantha in the early part of their relationship. While the color scheme isn't an obvious representation of their story, it sure made for a romantic, sweet story when their guests found out the meaning behind it! 

Meredith Melody Photography , from  Ashley + Ivan 's wedding. Pretty much every detail from this wedding told about this couple's Latin heritage. They had papel picado, a Cuban cigar bar, and a Cuban band. They also gave cayenne pepper as favors! 

Meredith Melody Photography, from Ashley + Ivan's wedding. Pretty much every detail from this wedding told about this couple's Latin heritage. They had papel picado, a Cuban cigar bar, and a Cuban band. They also gave cayenne pepper as favors! 

Melissa McCrotty Photography , from  mine + Richard 's wedding. My husband and I love adventures, and we thought a beautiful way to incorporate that was to paint my bike blush and gold and put it at the entrance to our ceremony. This silly little detail meant so much to me! 

Melissa McCrotty Photography, from mine + Richard's wedding. My husband and I love adventures, and we thought a beautiful way to incorporate that was to paint my bike blush and gold and put it at the entrance to our ceremony. This silly little detail meant so much to me! 

Kimberly Brackins Creative Portraiture , from  Jaclynn + Tyler 's wedding. This bride and groom both went to the University of Arkansas, so it only made sense for them to  call the Hogs  with their bridal party after the reception. Woo pig sooie to that! Also, they're both obsessed with green, which showed throughout their decor.

Kimberly Brackins Creative Portraiture, from Jaclynn + Tyler's wedding. This bride and groom both went to the University of Arkansas, so it only made sense for them to call the Hogs with their bridal party after the reception. Woo pig sooie to that! Also, they're both obsessed with green, which showed throughout their decor.

Cottonwood Studios Worldwide , from  Ally + Tyler 's wedding. This couple had their church's band come out to The Barn for a praise and worship session during their ceremony. A detail like this tells so much about a couple and where their hearts are! 

Cottonwood Studios Worldwide, from Ally + Tyler's wedding. This couple had their church's band come out to The Barn for a praise and worship session during their ceremony. A detail like this tells so much about a couple and where their hearts are! 

Shingleur Photography , from  Lindsy + Keith 's wedding. Lindsy is into barrel racing, and she used horseshoes from her barrel racing horse in her reception decor! 

Shingleur Photography, from Lindsy + Keith's wedding. Lindsy is into barrel racing, and she used horseshoes from her barrel racing horse in her reception decor! 

BnBauman Photography , from  Chelsea + Logan 's wedding. Logan was in dental school at the time of his wedding, so this precious tooth groom's cake was a must! He and his bride also gave toothbrushes and floss as favors. 

BnBauman Photography, from Chelsea + Logan's wedding. Logan was in dental school at the time of his wedding, so this precious tooth groom's cake was a must! He and his bride also gave toothbrushes and floss as favors. 

Matt Emrich Photo , from  Lyndsey + Brad 's wedding. See that blue heart sewn into Lyndsey's gorgeous dress? It was from a piece of her great grandfather's shirt. What a special way to honor someone who was such a big part of your story! 

Matt Emrich Photo, from Lyndsey + Brad's wedding. See that blue heart sewn into Lyndsey's gorgeous dress? It was from a piece of her great grandfather's shirt. What a special way to honor someone who was such a big part of your story! 

Liz Chrisman Photography , from  Cortney + Doug 's wedding. This couple looooves them some Texas, so they had Texan details representing all over The Barn! Texas stars, steak rub favors from their favorite Texas steakhouse, and beer and wine, all from Texas. It was awesome!

Liz Chrisman Photography, from Cortney + Doug's wedding. This couple looooves them some Texas, so they had Texan details representing all over The Barn! Texas stars, steak rub favors from their favorite Texas steakhouse, and beer and wine, all from Texas. It was awesome!

BnBauman Photography , from  Hayley + Zach 's wedding. When she got married, Hayley worked at a bakery, so this couple's decor included lots of SWEET things... a candy buffet, glittery shoes for the bride that looked like they were covered in sprinkles (yum), and a sprinkle toss getaway! 

BnBauman Photography, from Hayley + Zach's wedding. When she got married, Hayley worked at a bakery, so this couple's decor included lots of SWEET things... a candy buffet, glittery shoes for the bride that looked like they were covered in sprinkles (yum), and a sprinkle toss getaway! 

Melissa McCrotty Photography , from  Michelle + Chad 's wedding. If you and your love were high school sweethearts, bring something from your high school days! These letterman jackets are a sweet nod to the early days of their relationship. 

Melissa McCrotty Photography, from Michelle + Chad's wedding. If you and your love were high school sweethearts, bring something from your high school days! These letterman jackets are a sweet nod to the early days of their relationship. 

If you're planning your wedding, I hope this post helps you come up with some unique ways to put your story on display! After all, it's what makes you you. It's important!

xoxo,
Kelsi