Being a bridesmaid or MOH is a huge honor. Standing beside one of your best gals as she pledges her life to her love is extremely special! It is also a pretty big commitment. When you agree to be in a wedding, you are making a financial commitment. You're agreeing to pay for your dress (and possibly accessories, alterations, hair and makeup) unless the bride or her family are paying. You're agreeing to at least make an effort to attend bridal showers and the bachelorette party. You're also agreeing to pay for possible travel expenses and a gift for the couple. It is partially your responsibility to help make the bride's engagement season fun and special, and her wedding day unforgettable. No pressure! ;)
Did I make it sound like you're signing your life away when you agree to be in a wedding?! Don't worry, y'all. It's a commitment, but it's also an honor, and it's super fun (unless your friend is bridezilla). If you Google this topic, there are like a million duties for MOHs and bridesmaids. Buuuut unless the bride is really traditional, just stick to these most important ones!
Maids of Honor Duties
*Plan the bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. These are obviously huuuge responsibilities! Try not to stress. Ask for help from other bridesmaids or the bride or groom's family members. When you're planning either of these and searching for cute ideas, Pinterest is your friend! If you're hosting a bridal shower, it's also your job to let guests know where the bride and groom are registered before the shower. And you're in charge of keeping a list of the gifts the couple receives at the shower. It's admittedly a lot of work, but it's worth it for your bestie!
*Keep the other bridesmaids informed. Make sure they know when any showers or the bachelorette party are happening. Fill them in on dress shopping dates, and make sure they've gotten their dress and had it altered, if necessary. Make sure they arrive at the rehearsal and to the wedding venue on time. Take care of all these things so the bride doesn't have to... she's got enough on her plate already!
*Give a killer toast! Unless you're super confident about it, be sure to write down what you want to say beforehand! Believe me, I've been there, and I know it's a little scary. Have a glass of champagne to calm your nerves, be as charming as possible, and do your thing!
*Help the bride find her gown. Fluff it and fix the train a hundred times on the day of the wedding. Help with invitations and any other details she's freaking out over. Give suggestions for the playlist. Calm her nerves when she texts you worrying about the cake at 4 in the morning! ;)
*Traditionally, the maid of honor pays for her own dress and all accessories. This totally depends on how traditional the bride is, but be prepared!
*Pay for the dress. Some brides will buy your dress, but when you agree to be in the wedding, know that you may have to foot the bill yourself! It's also one of your duties not to complain about the dress. We know, it's can be hard. But just wear it, dance in it, and deal with it. ;) You also may have to pay for shoes, other accessories, hair and makeup, travel expenses and lodging.
*Help the MOH with the bridal shower and bachelorette party. These events can be expensive, and they take a lot of planning! Make her job easier by offering to help and/or pay for a few things.
*Attend all the events that you can possibly make it to. Bridal showers. Bachelorette parties. Dress shopping (for the bride and bridesmaids' dresses). The rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. The wedding, obviously! The bride will (hopefully) be understanding if you can't make it to everything. But unless you live far away or have a very busy schedule, you should try!
*Make the bride's big day as stress-free and fun as possible. Listen to her when she's nervous about messing up her vows or tripping down the aisle. Check her teeth before photos! Make sure she looks flawless. Hold her dress while she pees (yep!). Dance at the reception. Be a good friend! :)
Being in a wedding is fun and unforgettable, so make sure you make the most of it! And make your friend's experience as wonderful as possible. :)